Gail The Parenting Coach
8 Things Parents Need to Acknowledge About Their Feelings
Children usually have no problem feeling emotions and expressing themselves with their entire bodies. And when they feel unheard, they usually continue expressing them, but in louder and more noticeable ways.
Parents often feel uncomfortable when their children express their upset feelings, and in an effort to feel better and help their children feel better, they try to fix , happy up, or scare the feelings away.
Why? Because a lot of us didn’t have permission to feel our feelings when we were young so accepting and acknowledging them as adults can be difficult and uncomfortable.
Being honest with ourselves is helpful. Breathe through those uncomfortable feelings because feelings are supposed to be felt, not fixed. When we accept our feelings and feel more comfortable feeling our feelings, then we are better able to validate and accept those feelings in our children.
Learning to identity and express emotions in helpful healthy ways may be difficult, but it’s worth the work.
The following is an idea for starters. On the top of a piece of paper or in a journal write:
“ If I was okay to feel whatever I’m feeling and I wouldn’t be judged as bad or wrong, what would I be feeling?”
What is your body telling you? Listen with your heart.
It’s a journey to the heart.